The first step to take if your relationship is in a rut [Video]

The lull in a long-term relationship can present itself in a myriad of ways. Sometimes losing the spark looks like scrolling at the dinner table instead of engaging with one another. Other times it means sleeping in separate rooms for month.

It’s unlikely that two people can partner for years and years and not experience some sort of disinterest or disappointment.

Even when a relationship appears to be thriving, a couple might be facing invisible or at least obfuscated struggles.

Take Barack and Michelle Obama. While promoting her book “The Light We Carry” in 2022, Michelle Obama opened up about the pain points in her marriage.

Long-term relationships often endure significant chunks of time where you, and maybe your partner, are not happy with how the partnership is functioning, she said on an episode of NPR’s Life Kit.

“You have to be prepared to have long stretches of discomfort,” Obama …