Relationship Roller Coaster: Attachment Styles and What to Do [Video]

Have you been feeling the roller coaster effect in your dating or marriage relationship? Perhaps there are periods of closeness where the two of you feel safe and connected. But these times are inevitably followed by someone pulling back, or by hurt and conflict. After a while, the closeness comes back but you know the downward plummet will eventually come again, and you feel stuck riding the relationship roller coaster.

If this is familiar, different attachment styles may be playing a role in your relationship dynamics.  In this article, we will discuss how to identify your primary attachment style and that of your partner, and how these styles may be playing a role in that roller coaster feeling.

An attachment style is a way of relating to others that develops during infancy and childhood, through the responses you get from your parents or primary caregivers. From your experiences, you learn …